Question:

"Hi Swinggcat,

I just read your newsletter about having women in

your life and it really rang true to me.  I think

too many guys discard both the usefulness and

pleasure of having female friends. 

It's actually something I've tried to maintain for

myself, but I've had a problem with it I'd hope you

could help me with. See, one thing I noticed during

my college years was that there were two types of women: 

1) The women I wanted to go out with but wanted to be

friends with me; and 2) The women I wanted as friends

but didn't want anything to do with me at all!  It was

very strange. There would be women I wanted to be just

platonic with but they just didn't want to hang around

me. However, when I pursued a girl (and didn't get her

of course), she was more than happy to have me as a

"good friend"

Do you have any insight into that?  I'd appreciate any

tips you could give me.  By the way, your book is

great."

-- D from San Diego, CA

Swinggcat’s response:

The directions I gave in my newsletter, Having Women In

Your Life, were to…

Make Five Female Friends Possessing The Characteristics

Of The Type Of Woman You’d Like To Attract! 

A few words of caution: Making friends with a woman does

not mean figuratively shoving an estrogen suppository up

your rear, making you into one of her sympathetic

girlfriends who eagerly await hearing about her latest

boy disaster tale. Be a man, not gimp. Treat her no

different than you’d treat one of your buddies.

Also, courting a woman you’re only friends with – like,

for example, buying her flowers – is probably the

quickest road to squelching both the friendship and

any attraction that is there. It is the equivalent of

Medieval-style torturing both your ego and penis, and

then having them shipped off to a euthanasia ward to be

put to their demise.  

In her eyes you’re acting incongruent with the conditions

of the relationship you set or accepted with her – you are

friends, not a married couple! But this doesn’t mean you

can’t get sexual with her. Later on I’m going to reveal

exactly how to do this… So Keep Reading!

Becoming friends with women you’re attracted to is one of

the best investments you can make - even if you never get

jiggy with them – because…

1.) You’ll become comfortable around the type of women

you’d like to attract. When you’re comfortable around

women your chances of attracting them are a lot higher.

2.) You’ll learn the subtleties and nuances of their

psyche, giving you the power to engage and attract these

types of women with ease. 

3.) They’ll introduce you to their attractive friends. If

a woman is your type, chances are, many of her friends are

also your type. Because you’re friends with her, you’ll

have the opportunity to meet and attract all of her

friends – this is multi-level marketing at its best!

To answer your question: I’d capitalize on women you fell

short of attracting by becoming friends with them. Not all

of them. Just the ones you find attractive, inside and out. 

And if any of them treat you like a dilapidated gimp, shunt

them through the “exit only” door of your reality. You

wouldn’t keep up a friendship with a guy who disrespected

you, right?

I bet the girls you wanted a platonic friendship with

weren’t really your type anyway. So don’t emotionally beat

yourself senseless over this. There loss, not yours.

Question:

"What's up Swinggcat,

Hey,

I can not wait till your audios come out bro. Seriously,

I want to listen to them until it is fully engrained. Can

you give us a hint about when they might be for sale? Out

of the many I've checked out, you are the very best!

Question: I'm starting to learn how to generate attraction

inside of women and it's very exciting, but it's more

difficult doing it when you’re on a mission by yourself. I

don't really have many male friends so I usually go out

alone, which puts out a different energy vibe when you

open the set.

You said you used to befriend men with game in bars. (Were

there times when you went out just by yourself? What's

the mindset?)

I need advise on making friends with successful 'high

status'guys. Sounds retarded but I think you can feel me.

Reading "How to Win Friend and Influence People" helps, but

not really, in this paradoxical 'real world'. Any books or

audios you recommend. Maybe you should create systems of

'how to make friends with anyone.' Then you would be the

ultimate. Please help in the best way you know. Thanks."

- A from Washington

Swinggcat’s response:

I’m going to share a story with you. A few years back, I

was out at a nightclub with a friend of mine. Alas, he got

violently ill and decided to go home. I had a few drinks

in me and wasn’t in the mood to risk getting a DUI.

I was left with these two options: Either I could sit in my

car and give myself a hypno lap dance until I sobered up or

I could go back into the night club. I spent a few minutes

brooding over how all of the women at the bar would look at

me as if I had the words “I’m a loser because I’m alone!”

written in permanent red marker across my forehead. 

Then, out of nowhere, I snapped and made the decision to

go into the bar. Maybe it was the alcohol talking. Maybe it

was because there was a full moon out. I dunno?

I entered the bar and like a battering ram I charged headlong

into the first group of girls in sight.

I ended up really hitting it off with one of them. I was

digging her and she was digging me. I could just feel the

sexual attraction between the both of us.

As I was holding onto her hands, I looked into her eyes and

pulled her closely into me as if I was about to kiss her. I

could tell she wanted to kiss me.

Instead of kissing her, I said: “You are such an awesome

girl that I wouldn’t want to ruin our friendship by hooking

up.”

She looked a little disappointed but acquiesced to “being

only friends.” For the rest of the night I made her my wingman,

helping me get several phone numbers of other women.

But here’s the kicker: I still ended up sleeping with her that

night. In a bit, I’ll reveal to you how I was able to TURN A

FRIEND INTO A LOVER. So keep reading.

I had a great time and have been out alone dozens and dozens

of times since. Going out alone has given me some interesting

insights:

1.) Having the skill to go out alone communicates to your

unconscious mind that your success with women and people is

not dependent on others. You’ll unknowingly give off to women

an air of confidence, charisma, and power.

2.) Women see guys as losers who feel like losers for being out

alone. If you communicate to women that being out alone doesn’t

bother you in the slightest, they WILL NOT JUDGE YOU AS A LOSER.   

3.) Going out by yourself is a surefire way to increase your

success with women because… It Forces You To Interact With Lots

Of Them!

Women make much better wingmen than guys. So, if I were you,

I’d focus more on befriending girls you can use as wingmen to

help you meet and attract other women. Most women could care

less if you’re with another guy. Of course, there are

exceptions – like if she’s a swinger looking to have a Ménage

with you and your buddy.

However – and I don’t know if this is biological hardwiring

or cultural conditioning…

Women Feel Attraction Toward Men In The Company Of Other Women.

Does this mean that if a woman sees you with other women she’ll

indubitably FEEL attraction toward you? No – but she’s more

likely to!

It is useful, though, to model the behaviors of guys who are

successful with women. The best way to model a person is to start

hanging out with them. So here’s my quick course on befriending

guys who are successful with women.

Let me tell you another quick story. A little over a year ago

there was a guy who tried to befriend me with the intentions of

modeling me so he could improve his skills with women. For several

months I blew him off because he came across a bit too eager and

needy. As I saw it, he was asking for a lot from me yet had nothing

to give back in exchange.

About a year later, we bumped into each other at a bar. This time

he took a different approach. He immediately bought me a drink.

He asked me lots of questions. I had no problem answering all

of them because...

He showed me that he was genuinely grateful that I had taken the

time to help him out.

Put in other words, he acted like a cool guy and demonstrated that

he was genuinely appreciative about the opportunity to learn some

life changing skills. After this he bought me dinner a few times.

Now we’re friends and if he wants advice on something I’ll give it

to him regardless of him buying me dinner.

Follow this advice and good things will come.

Question:

Hello Swinggcat,

"So far your book is awesome stuff!!

Here is my Q: Some of my friends have female FRIENDS (and I mean

like close friends they share concerns with etc) whom they sometimes

hook up with. One friend for example, has an ex who hooks up with him

sometimes. These people are somehow able to keep good friendship with

the girls, they talk to them often but they still have them wanting to

have sex. I thought that if one is friends with a girl, it means you're

like her fem buddies and no booty for you? How can one be friends with

chicks without having them "put a skirt" on you and feel no attraction?

Are there some special prizability rules for that?

Thanks for your time."

- A from NYC, NY.

Swinggcat’s Response:

I’ve never heard the term “fem buddy” before.  LOL! Love it! I’ll

have to use this.

Many a man has felt attraction toward a girl but didn’t know how to

proceed because it had already been established that they were “just

friends.” As she was yapping away, he stared at her vacantly, feeling

sponge-brained as he hemmed and hawed over how to make the first move.

Sounds like you’ve been in a similar plight, yes? I dunno? I’ve been

there truckloads of times. Several years ago, however, I discovered a

secret largely unknown by most men…

Irrevocably Changing My Perspective On “Just Being Friends” With Women.  

I realized the mistake most guys make is in thinking they have to coax

a woman they are friends with into seeing them as a potential boyfriend

before making a move on her.

Think of the guy, for example, who attentively watches and listens as

his gal pal wails over her current love life; and, then, assures her

that he’d make a better boyfriend than her current one. Or, to take

another example, think of the guy who’s been friends with a woman for

years and finally gets up the gall to tell her his true feelings.

These cases are penis suicide. They’re as damaging as wiring your

wiener to an electrical outlet and then soaking it with beer…because…

They’re Incongruent With The Already Established “Just Being Friends”

Condition That Has Been Set On The Relationship!

But here’s where things take a bizarre turn for the better.

Many women have no qualms about sleeping with guy friends. To many of

these women, sleeping with a guy is less of a big deal than dating or

becoming his girlfriend. Surprise surprise, women have sexual needs

too. Even women who explicitly tell you that they are only open to

having a platonic relationship are probably more open to having sex

with you than you think.

I should know. Most of the women I’ve been friends with whom

explicitly stated that our relationship was strictly platonic, I

ended up sleeping with. When women tell men that they only want to

be friends, most feel a bit disappointed – and women pick up on this.

When women say this to me, I always looked relieved as I utter, “Thank

God... I’m glad you realize that you don’t have a chance with me.”

But this is solely for my own amusement because...

I Know It Is Only A Matter Of Time Before I Boink Them!

Admittedly, a big part of the reason I’m able to do this

is because...

I Have Mastered The Necessary Skills For Quickly Generating

Massive Attraction And Getting Physical With Women!

So here’s my advice to you: Don’t in any way, shape or form try

to persuade a woman you’re friends with into dating or

considering you as her boyfriend.

Work, instead, on generating attraction in her and physically

escalating it to sex.

Of course, this is easier said than done if you don’t have the

tools to generate attraction in her and physically escalate

to sex.

This is where I come in: I’ve put together a book spelling out

the exact steps for generation attraction in women and physically

escalating it to sex.

I’m not one of those armchair dating gurus, spouting vague

philosophies about attracting women, leaving you clueless

how to get from point A to B to C.

I have heaps of experience with women. And it shows because in my book…

I systematically teach you the exact steps for generating massive

attraction in women and turning that attraction into sex.

To make sure these steps are hardwired into your brain my book is

chock full of examples, one of which is a real-world, word-for-word

dialogue... taking you step-by-step from me approaching a woman to

having sex with her a few hours later.

Maybe you’re looking for something else besides sex with women –

like a fantastic girlfriend. If you don’t, however, have the

skills to generate attraction, and physically put the moves on a

woman, any type of success is grim.

Think back to all the times you might have gotten a girl but didn't

because you were uncertain how to get from point A to B to C.

Stop letting these opportunities pass you by and start getting the

results with women you want by downloading a copy of my book right

now.

Real World Seduction

Your Loyal Dating Coach,

Swinggcat

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