Ok, so there's this girl at my job that has been making many passes at me lately. She will basically tell me that she wants to hook up with me, wants to do naughty things with me, etc. I'm 21 and she’s 24. I have worked with her for about 2 years and she has never showed any signs of this. She was there back in the day when I was busting on a few attractive girls (they don’t work there anymore). The funny thing is I don’t think I've done anything really to spark too much attraction, she just came on to me like that.

Now, my thing is that I'm planning on leaving the job soon, and considering I'm still a virgin, I think this could be a good time to experiment sexually? What do you think?

Also, I'm kind of nervous about what to say if she asks me if I'm a virgin? Got any advice for me Carlos?

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CARLOS ANSWERS:

Well there's one of two possibilities here. She's either really digging you all of a sudden (yes, strange, but not unheard of...), or she's just winding you up for fun. Let's assume that it's the former and not the latter.

Sometimes a woman will just get it into her that she's into you. Since this has come on so spontaneously after a period of knowing you for a while, I say you strike while the iron is hot.

Look, the longer you go before you get rid of your virginity, the tougher it will probably be on you later. I highly recommend that guys get rid of it as soon as humanly possible, because it will lower that mental anxiety over sex that many men carry their whole lives, which then morphs into some pretty bad social shame later on.

Contrary to what many of the "shame mongers" out there would like you to believe, there is nothing worse for a guy's confidence than waiting too long to establish your sexuality with a woman. Don't fall prey to manipulative religious dogma or other would-be "authorities" on this topic.

That being said, I think you should go for it. Don't wait, do not pass go, do not collect $200. Just DO IT now.

Don't get introspective and start to second-guess it.

Just do it now.

Don't worry about the work situation, since you're leaving anyway.

Just do it NOW.

Don't spend a lot of time using some more clever "pickup" techniques.

JUST DO IT NOW!

I remember in high school I had a girl, Karen, that suddenly decided she wanted me. Just like that. Out of the blue. And I was so caught off guard by her attention that I didn't get that she wanted to date me. She was cool, very attractive, and I simply couldn't believe she'd want to be with me.

I was such a Dumb-ass. I even remember another guy in my class saying, "Dude, she's into you! Ask her out!"

And shy, low self-esteem me just shrugged it off.

That's one of those regrets, and it's the worst kind: the "I didn't do it" regret.

So go after this one.

And when it comes to revealing your sexual status, you simply come up with an answer for her:

HER: "Are you a virgin?"

YOU: "What would you prefer?"

HER: "Either..." or "Virgin..." or "Not..."

YOU: "Well, here's your opportunity to educate a poor ol' farm boy..." Smile, wink, take her by the hand into the bedroom.

It's not whether or not you're a virgin that she cares about. It's how YOU FEEL about that fact that carries the weight.

I hear a million women nodding their heads right now...

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