After all, how are men supposed to know
what each girl’s looking for without asking?
If you DID ask, you know your chances
would be small, after all, no girl wants a guy approaching
her with needy questions - she wants a confident man who
somehow seems to know what she’s after and can give it to
her.
So how do you do it?
How do you become the man that
effortlessly exudes confidence, dominance and presence,
without turning into an arrogant poser or desperate wannabe?
The answer lies in psychology. It’s at
the heart of all persuasive social situations, and
absolutely central to the success of any guy’s attempts at
attracting and seducing women. Quite simply, by learning the
CORRECT psychological rules, principles and tactics, any guy
can play and WIN at the game of seduction. For example,
let’s look at one such psychological technique, that used
correctly boosts any guy’s chance of getting a girl’s number
or hooking up with her at a later date by at least
50%, each and every time he uses it. It’s called option
limitation and works on the following principle of human
nature:
When someone’s presented with only a
single choice, often their natural reaction will be to rebel
against it and go their own way. However, when given 2 or 3
options, the opposite occurs: they feel their intellectual
freedom has been respected and they make their choice from
the variety of options they’ve been presented with.
You can use this universal
psychological principle when picking-up or seducing a woman
by carefully constructing how you pose important questions
or phrases while talking to her.
For example, most men think saying:
“Can I have your number?” is an okay way to finish a
conversation that’s gone well with a girl. But a much more
powerful and effective way of saying the same thing would be
to use option limitation. Something like: “It’s been nice to
meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat
and a drink tomorrow?” What you’re doing is presenting the
girl with a choice between good and better – whichever she
says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in
the first example, she’s likely to create her own
alternative, which means there’s a chance she won’t say yes
to the option you gave her. When she subconsciously
recognises that she’s been given a choice between multiple
outcomes, she feels her intellectual freedom has been
respected and she chooses one of them.
So, always use option limitation to
give the impression there’s a variety of options available
to the girl – even though each one is fine as far as you’re
concerned. And to strengthen the effect of option
limitation, always try to separate the choices you give the
girl with the word “or.” When people hear “or” they
automatically recognise that they need to make a choice, and
therefore do just that.
Option limitation is just one example
of how, whether they know it or not, men who are successful
with women CREATE that success for themselves – not through
luck or good fortune.
Tiffany Taylor is
the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide for men
that reveals all the dirty tricks women play on guys each
and every day. And, most importantly, how men can turn the
tables on women by using
special psychological techniques to attract and seduce them,
anywhere, anytime…effortlessly.