QUESTION FROM A READER:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Hey Joseph,

 I have been using your emails and applying

them in real life, and I got a girlfriend!

 

But I heard from a one of her friends that

she wants me to kiss her next time we meet,

and this would be her first kiss. 

 

One of my friends told me to do it while

she's in mid-sentence because girls love

that. Is that true?

 

How should I do it?  I don't have any

experience with kissing either cause this

would be my first as well. 

 

Also are there signs that I should look for

when she's ready or can you give me an idea

of the general environment we should be in

when we kiss? Thanks.

 

Sincerely,

 

Kissing Virgin

 

MY RESPONSE:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

 

First of all, congratulations on landing a

"girlfriend."

 

I get emails all the time from guys who've

had amazing success using my tips and tactics

to land hook-ups, girlfriends, and even wives!

 

But it seems that you're kind-of young and

just starting to gain experience in the

world of women...

 

(which is good, because the younger you start,

the better you'll be when you're older!)

 

But for old farts like me, allow me to share

some friendly male advice --

 

First off, I would never consider a girl my

"girlfriend" until I have at least made-out

with her.

 

Why is this?

 

Because too many guys meet a girl they get

along with, go out on a few dates, and think

she's their "girlfriend" when in reality,

she's still playing the field.

 

This is how many guys get their hearts broken.

 

A girl's willingness to spend time with you

is not the primary factor in determining

her "girlfriend" status.

 

If she's willing to kiss you and make out

with you, that's the FIRST STEP to solidifying

her in a romantic capacity.

 

Why is this?

 

Because kissing allows her (and you) to judge

how close you want to get with the other person.

 

If the kissing isn't good - then all the other

stuff kissing leads to might not be good either!

 

So kissing is important.

 

But too often, guys really can drop the ball

when it comes time to "make the move" and go

in for the kiss.

 

Seriously, have you ever had a time where you're

with a girl, and you really wanted to kiss her,

but you were too nervous to do so and let the

opportunity pass you by?

 

Or maybe you actually went in for the kiss and

the entire act turned into an awkward moment

because you didn't calibrate right?

 

Well:  You're not alone.

 

This happens A LOT.

 

But when it does happen, and happen right, it

can be magical.

 

In my younger, wilder years, I had met a

beautiful girl that I took out on a date.

 

We went out to dinner, then went dancing,

and then bowling (for those of you who

know my mini-date theory, this will make

sense).

 

The entire time, we were having a blast!

 

Eventually, we ended up at an all-night

diner at around 2 o'clock in the morning.

 

We were sitting across from each other,

laughing, joking, etc.  She was drinking

coffee, I was nibbling some fries...

 

And I just KNEW it was time to kiss her.

 

But like most guys, in my younger years,

I was inexperienced and nervous about

the whole ordeal.

 

I mean, I didn't want to blow it with this

girl, but I knew I had to take the chance.

 

So I looked her in the eyes and said:

 

"Come here and sit next to me.  I want to

show you something."

 

Suddenly, the look on her face changed.

It was as though she knew what I was

getting at (even though at the time, I

was too scared witless to notice!).

 

So she got up and slid into the booth

right next to me.

 

I put my arm around her and looked her

in the eyes...

 

And I slowly moved in...

 

She closed her eyes...

 

And I then proceeded to give her an

"eskimo kiss."

 

(For those of you who don't know what that

is, its when you rub your noses together

in a gentle, nuzzling way.)

 

Suddenly she opened her eyes and said:

 

"What was that?"

 

"Uh, an... eskimo kiss?" I replied nervously.

 

"You called me over here to give me

an ESKIMO kiss?" she asked.

 

It was in that moment I knew how retarded

I was being.  So I threw caution to the

wind and kissed her right there.

 

This lead to a massive make-out session that

then lead to other stuff... but for the

purpose of this email, I'll stay on topic. =)

 

So as you can see, she was READY to be kissed,

but it took me a moment to realize I was

being stupid and my fear was holding me

back.

 

It was a valuable lesson for me.

 

Here are some simple guidelines to follow

when it comes to kissing women that will

help you to avoid acting like the idiot

I was...

 

First of all, don't just kiss her when

YOU feel like it.  Kiss her when SHE feels

like it.

 

Sometimes the woman you're with will be

ready to kiss you very quickly.  Other

times, it might take her a while to be

in the mood.

 

There are a couple ways to know when she's

ready.

 

The first is:  Does she touch you a lot?

 

The power of touch is very erotic, no matter

how you look at it.  Is she reaching over and

gently touching your arm when she talks to you?

 

Does she hug you?

 

Does she tap you playfully?

 

Any form of touching is a signal of interest

from a woman.  This is why dancing can be

so powerful.  As I like to say, if a woman

is willing to dance with you, she's willing

to make out with you!  It's an extension of

the same thing.  =)

 

The second thing you need to test for is:

how does she react when you touch her?

 

Is she comfortable with you touching

areas such as her hair, cheek, neck

or shoulder?

 

If she is, it means she's comfortable enough

with you physically to be willing to kiss

her.

 

If she isn't comfortable with this kind of

touching, back off for a bit and try again

later to see how she responds.

 

The third thing is:  Look at her eyes!

 

When she's ready to kiss you, you'll

notice two things about her eyes.

 

First of all - her pupils will be dilated.

The bigger her pupils are, the more aroused

she is.

 

Second of all - if her eyes are flittering

back and forth between your eyes (otherwise

known as the "eye scan" movement), that's

a 100% GO signal that she's ready to be

kissed!

 

(Seriously, if you see this eye scan, don't

hesitate - go for it right there!)

 

Nowadays, here's how I like to initiate the

kiss...

 

When I know she's ready, I'll reach out my

hand and cup her cheek, and I'll be looking

her directly in the eye.

 

Then I'll slowly move forward and gently kiss

her lips.

 

Then I'll kiss her again and again a little

more firmly.

 

If she doesn't respond, I'll pull back, if

she does, I'll take it further.

 

Now, I could go into more detail, but this

newsletter is already running a bit long

for my tastes.

 

If you REALLY want to get good at this, I

suggest you check out my book "The Art Of

Approaching."

 

In it, you'll find some killer tactics that

will help you make your move.

 

Check it out by clicking this link:

 

The Art Of Approaching

 

And if you want to get some SERIOUS in-depth

coaching, check out my advanced multi-media

course.

 

This will take you light-years ahead of

the learning curve.  You can check that out

here:

 

Advanced multi-media course

 

Once I'm done with you, you'll be a lean,

mean, romance machine.

 

Talk soon,

 Joseph Matthews