Now, I'm going to reveal the single
most powerful thing you can demonstrate with your
personality to get any woman interested in you. It's so
important that I put aside what I was working on today to
get this out to you.
Have you ever noticed how we love to rate things?
We just love to give something a grade or a rating.
· "She's
a 10!"
· "Two
thumbs up!"
· "I
gave her an 'A' for effort..."
· "He'll
never make it to first base..."
Have you ever been to the web site where you get to rate
people? They flash you a picture of either women or men, and
you get to click what you think they are on a scale from 1
to 10. It's actually addicting when you sit there for a
while, because you start to get invested in the process of
grading people based on their looks.
The shame of it is that there's one important thing that's
left completely out of this process.
There's nothing to indicate if this person is even likable
or not. What if she's a bitch? What if she's a selfish
little me-monkey?
You can't tell from the picture. (Well, most of the time.)
As a result, I won't ever rate a woman as a "10."
You can't make that high a grade with me without having a
good personality and character. Nobody gets a rating
higher than 9 without having the complete package.
Now, I realize that I'm a little different. Most guys will
easily give up the highest rating for a woman based on looks
alone. In fact, they'll even fall in lust over a woman and
start selling their blood plasma based on her appearance.
In my book, that's the worst kind of mistake to make.
Why? Because there's no QUALIFICATION going on.
Remember that, because we're going to come back to it again.
Back to the whole "rating people" thing.
They've done studies where they compared the
features of men and women, and had people judge whether they
were attractive or not, just like on that web site I was
talking about. When men graded the women, they
found a standard of what was considered "attractive." They
could even pinpoint it to a ratio of proportions on a
woman's face.
Distances were standard between the eyes, from the eyes to
the mouth, from the eyes to the nose, etc.
What they found was that what guys found "hot" was actually
pretty predictable.
When the women rated the men on their appearance, they found
that they were more scattered. Women had different criteria.
Some things were standard, sure. A strong jaw-line was
important - for most. But really there wasn't a lot that
they agreed on. Tastes were all over the map. Some liked big
noses, some liked small ears, some liked facial hair, some
didn't.
If you've ever been around women rating guys, they are just
like this. Very few will agree on what they find
"attractive."
Why is this?
It's because women know they need to know the guy
before they can make that call. Women take
time to decide whether or not they're attracted to you
because they know that your CONFIDENCE and ATTITUDE really
stack the deck.
Now back to qualification...
You may have even heard of this term before.
What does it mean?
I came up with a simple definition that works:
Qualification is when you decide to be CHOOSY.
Really that's all there is to it.
It's the attitude that says:
· You're
not going to settle for just anyone
· You're
not desperate
· You're
not "sold" on her yet
· You're
might even be a little suspicious
When you make a snap decision that a woman is worth
chasing and pursuing without any kind of qualification, you
immediately become less attractive in her eyes.
Your attitude changes in a hundred different ways that you
don't notice. You do "little things" that clue her in to the
fact that you're NOT very choosy.
And most guys don't even realize they're doing this.
After a few hours in front of a computer screen
rating women, you start to forget that they are not just
pretty faces, but they have personalities.
And a lot of them have personalities that could make you
potentially VERY miserable.
You've got to TALK to these women.
You've got to tolerate being around them for longer than a
few hours at a time.
I once dated this Russian girl that was unbelievably hot.
I'm talking 9+ on most guy's scales. She was FINE.
I actually met her when I interviewed her for a position at
an Investment Bank where I was working at the time.
She was also really cocky and sure of herself, and her
attitude just rolled me over.
I couldn't hire her for the job, but I called her and asked
her out. We had a decent first date, with a little
face-sucking at the Palace
of Fine Arts here
in San Francisco. (For those of you who have seen
the movie "The Rock," it's the place where Sean Connery
meets his daughter to talk to her.) Nice. Romantic.
The next time we went out, I had my goal in mind. But what I
was beginning to realize was that I was dreading being
around her.
She was constantly talking. Yap
yap yap. ME this, and ME that.
"Look what I've done. I'm so proud of myself..."
It was starting to get sickening. But she was so HOT! AND so
damn annoying...
I distinctly remember going back to her place on the third
date and hanging out there while she read me a truckload of
her bad poetry. I was all "That's great!" and "How
beautiful!"
What I forgot was that I should have had standards. I didn't
QUALIFY her.
And in the end, she ended up pushing me out the door and
telling me that she wasn't going to sleep with me, after
making me tell her how much I thought of her and how great
an a$$ she had. Talk about humiliating.
Ever since that experience, I remembered my lesson, and I
kept it on the front of my mind so that I learned from it.
(You might notice that I have no problem telling you about
my mistakes because I want you to realize that I've made a
lot of the same ones you have.)
The "Big Lesson" was this: I got her interested in me and
demonstrated my Alpha Power when I had first INTERVIEWED
her.
THAT was what got her interest spiked! I was
Qualifying her that whole time, demanding that she tell ME
why I should be interested in her.
If I'd just kept qualifying her a little more, called her on
her self-centered behavior, told her that her poetry needed
a few less five-syllable words ... and basically kept
qualifying her the way I had been from when I was
interviewing her, I would have been able to either satisfy
my "carnal curiosity" ... or dumped HER instead before she
drove me nuts.
And since my "Big Lesson", I've done just that. I reject
women all the time when I sense that they're going to be
pills to deal with.
Let me tell you, it feels GREAT! And my posture of
qualification drives them crazy with desire.
Now YOU need to be the one to decide whether a woman is
worth your time and energy.
Don't give up the reigns of control so quickly just
because she's got a pretty face.
Or pretty anything else...
Repeat after me: "Beauty isn't enough!"
Until you have a chance to learn more about her, you can
only say TSTR! "TOO SOON TO RATE!"
I don't give up a 10 for ANY woman until I've gotten
to know her, and find out if she's a QUALITY woman.
Now, for you to get to the point where you feel you can turn
down women takes a little work. I think I have something
that will make it much easier for you to build this Alpha
Attitude.
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